Next ask your client to consider their current relationship partner or friend.

Using a Blank Coaching Wheel (free), ask your client to label the page their Relationship Wheel, and then label the wheel segments with the 8-10 most important qualities they think a life-partner, friend or lover should have.

Who for: Whilst decisions of the heart shouldn't be made solely with the 'head' or analytical left-brain, sometimes a little left-brained analysis can help us see what we're missing-whether it's that someone deserves a second chance, or that we need to move on. In Summary: This is a potentially deep exercise, and helps a client prioritise the qualities they look for-or value-in a life partner.

How might they change the way they evaluate people they meet in future?.

What did they learn from doing this exercise?.

As they look at the list of qualities they chose, what is missing from their list?.

What do they notice as they look at their scores?.

Tip: You can make this exercise more interesting by giving ½ point for a slight or possibly improvement, 1 for improvement and 2 for a big improvement. What do you think the quality of 'a good listener' might score? I think you see where this exercise is going! Using each of the wheel categories, ask your client, Would having a partner with a good sense of humour enhance that area of your life? Now after comparing to the 8 wheel categories, a 'good sense of humour' might score 5, improving fun, friends and family, your home environment, your health and maybe even your career if you have a lot of social events to go to! Next, imagine, your client has listed the quality of 'A good sense of humour'. Using each of the wheel categories, ask your client, Would a tall or curvy life partner enhance that area of your life? Would it enhance their 'Finances', 'Career', 'Personal Growth'? After asking this question for all 8 categories on the wheel, 'Tall' or 'Curvy' might get a score of 1 for 'Significant Other'.

Working with ONE of their ideal partner's personal qualities at a time, ask your client to give each 'ideal partner quality' a score of 1 for each category on the Wheel of Life that would be improved by having a partner with that quality.Įxample: Imagine a client has 'Tall' or 'Curvy' on their ideal life partner quality list.Next your client will score each of these qualities using the Wheel of Life Categories.Tip: Ask them to write down whatever pops into their mind, however silly, unlikely, boring etc.

These can be anything at all-and the more honest the client is, the better this exercise works. Start by asking your client to list 10 qualities they want their ideal life partner to have.In this exercise a client learns which qualities in a life-partner could MOST improve their life overall-and which are perhaps more superficial. For example: How much does a person's hair colour or height truly matter for our happiness? Often we look for qualities in a life partner that-when it comes down to it-don't add that benefit to our lives. Help them focus instead on more meaningful personal qualities. Who for: This is a great exercise for clients who get carried away looking for the 'perfect' or 'perfect looking' partner. Which qualities, that we wish for in a potential life partner, would have the most positive impact on us? These suggestions are NOT intended for use with couples-unless you are a marriage counsellor or have training in this area! Are you trained to deal with the challenges and potential damage to your clients' relationship if they see they have been negatively scored by their partner? Are you trained to deal with the issues that might result? If not, then please only use these ideas with individuals for their own insight and learning.įor even more ideas for The Wheel of Life read: The Complete Guide to the Wheel of Life! Here are 3 Ways to Use The Wheel of Life in Evaluating Relationships 1) Identify the most positive qualities to focus on in a potential life partner IMPORTANT: These exercises are intended to be used with individual clients to help them understand themselves and their relationships. Did you know that the categories we use on the Life Balance Wheel can be used to help make decisions on everything from life partners to new careers? And that a Blank Wheel can be used to help evaluate decisions? The 'Wheel of Life' may be 'old hat' to many of us, but it's endlessly flexible.

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